Hey it’s Jonathan, from Tarot Reading Daily…
Ever have that feeling something in your relationship is off?
You might not be able to put your finger on it, but some red flags have been showing up, and you just get the sense that something is not right between you and your partner. It’s frustrating to know something in your relationship is out of whack, but not be able to figure out what’s going on.
Or maybe you’ve started seeing someone and you’d just like to know where the relationship is headed. Are they worth all the time and energy? Is the connection heading toward a fulfilling place?
You don’t want to waste your time with someone who’s going to turn out to be the wrong person, or worse, a total creep.
Are you sick of the same relationship dynamics showing up? Maybe your heart has been hurt so many times that it’s just hard to trust someone, especially if they are acting weird or you get the sense that something’s off.
Luckily, tarot can cut right to the heart of relationship questions, and help expose what’s going on, even if it’s not right out in the open.
So, to begin with, it’s important to understand…
The Power Of Brutal Honesty
To be honest, it can be really easy to lie to ourselves about what’s actually going on in a relationship, especially when we’re deep in it. It’s like a fish in water. We can’t really see, or sometimes don’t want to see, what’s happening until we get some distance.
This is why tarot cards can be so helpful – they give us an unbiased assessment, and shed light on a complicated situation. The cards can lead you back to the truth that’s already inside of you. The universal wisdom expressing itself through tarot wants what’s best for you, even if the honest truth can be a bit hard to swallow.
Relationships ARE part of how we grow and evolve, so if you’re seeing any of these six toxic relationship cards in your readings, consider them part of your learning curve. When you work with the energy of the cards, it can help you grow more fully into your deepest heart and self. If you see these cards, definitely consider taking steps toward changing your relationship dynamic… and possibly moving on all together. You deserve to be in a nurturing loving relationship, and you can be!
An unhealthy relationship can be one of the most energy depleting experiences. Toxic relationships hold you back from so many opportunities in your life, including an authentically good love connection. Let’s take a look at cards that represent the biggest offenders.
These Six Cards Are A Big Red Flag For Love
1. The Tower
The Tower card is not by its nature a ‘bad’ card to draw. In fact, the chaos and destruction this card represents is generally the kind that allows for ‘cleaning house,’ and a fresh start. It’s a card that says, “Ok love, you’re ready to let go of what’s holding you back, but you’re going to have to trust while the negative gets pulled away.”
That being said, in a relationship reading, The Tower card is likely pointing to a period of terrible conflict, fighting, and confusion.
While this could be the kind of turmoil that brings you two closer together when you get to the other side of the trouble, it’s doubtful a newer relationship or one that’s already falling apart will survive.
Are you fighting a lot right now? Can you feel there is an underlying tension that’s not being addressed? Listen, you deserve SO MUCH MORE. You deserve real communication, kindness, authenticity. You deserve someone who’s heart is so invested in you that even when you fight you can still feel that they will be by your side no matter what.
2. Three of Swords
The Three of Swords is a classic relationship bad omen. This card is 100% about miscommunication, grief, and heartbreak.
The intimacy and peace signified by the previous card, the Two of Swords, has been splayed apart with the addition of a third sword. The Three of Swords usually shows up when there is infidelity or indecision from your partner. If this card shows up in your reading, then it’s time to have a heart to heart with your loved one. Infidelity is not okay. Indecision can be understandable at times – but do you really want to be with someone who isn’t sure if they want to be with you?
Your partner may be distracted by their own injuries. In this case, miscommunication is coming from an attempt to either hide their feelings, their indiscretions, or the parts of themselves they fear you won’t accept if revealed. Their gymnastics of avoidance have caused some really sketchy, untrustworthy energy.
Ultimately, this card is a bad sign for relationships, but the sun shines through (as depicted in traditional deck). It’s just starting to peek through the dark clouds, implying that there is insight to gain from the situation. What seems ugly and troublesome may offer some reflection on how we twist the truth and hide both from ourselves and from others. At it’s best, the Three of Swords offers an opportunity to come clean and move forward from a place of mutual acceptance.
3. The Devil
Not unlike The Tower, The Devil is not, in my reading, an inherently negative card. It represents primal, carnal energies; our desires and passions. These energies are incredibly powerful, and can be intoxicating or highly creative. These energies move us in life.
The problem is many aspects of ourselves have been denied and shamed from a young age. So often, The Devil represents our shadow and the collective shadow. If this card is showing up in your relationship reading you might be in denial about what’s really going on in the connection.
Often there can be a master/slave dynamic because the ‘fiend’ must control the one it preys on. Be vigilant if this card arises, look at the sheen of attraction and magnetism and see where your lover’s power truly lies. What’s truly feeding the attraction between you two?
When The Devil shows up in your relationship reading, it’s likely that your relationship is getting you in touch with your shadow and suppressed emotions. The other person is literally bringing out the devil in you, which could be cathartic, or traumatizing – depending on how you handle it.
Is there physical, psychic, or emotional abuse that you’ve chosen not to address? What about addiction and enabling bad habits in one another? You can be with someone who empowers you, who wants to be healthy and tend to the sacred garden of your relationship. Not make it toxic.
4. Five of Pentacles
The Five of Pentacles points to being stuck in a victim-mentality rut. This card represents physical wellness, material wealth or disparity. These this card can also be linked to our beliefs and the general energetic trend of our lives in the material world.
If Five of Pentacles is drawn in a relationship reading, get ready for a real sense of lack to permeate the relationship. Maybe you’ve already experienced this with your lover, but if not, start to notice how you feel when you’re with them. Do you feel empowered and vital? Or do you feel weak and ineffectual?
There could be some manipulation happening through money as well. Your sense of safety and survival could be at the disposal of your partner. Don’t fret though, you’re just caught in a mindset-spell and there are those around you who truly want to help you – you’ll just need to be willing to leave behind the poison you’ve been drinking.
Angels upon angels await you to start choosing to let their love and support in. You don’t have to do it alone. Seek out people who see you in the highest light, who want you to thrive.
5. Three of Cups, Reversed
I wasn’t going to look into any of the reversed versions of the tarot as it opens up a whole other can-of-worms and I wanted to keep this pretty straight forward, but I couldn’t resist the classic – though all too often these days – ménage à trois FAIL!
There are many people these days exploring open relationships, polyamory, or just plain sleeping with others behind their partner’s back.
I don’t mean to lump the first two with the third as there are a small portion of individuals in which an open relationship or polyamory seems to work, however for most people, the need for a strong built-on-trust container is absolutely necessary for their relationship to bloom healthfully.
The Three of Cups is a sign that there is a third person in the relationship, whether known by all involved or not, and low-and-behold this third’s presence is tearing the relationship apart at its seams.
These types of transgressions can be very hard to mend, and often cutting bait is the best way to save time, energy, and heartbreak, lest you wish to get caught in an eternal non-violent-communication triad about trust and jealousy that will likely end with everyone denying themselves until they explode from sheer internal pressure.
Just kidding… but seriously, tend to your needs first especially when there is a tangle of one two many participants in your relationship. You deserve a safe environment to open and bloom into through love and trust.
6. Ten of Swords
Sigh, the Ten of Swords represents mortal wounding. I could leave it at that really. It’s a rough card. The traditional imagery is a man lying dead with all ten swords piercing his corpse. This can represent a kind of injury that could take months, maybe lifetimes to heal.
You may have a heartbreak from the past that you experienced this level of loss in. They hurt. And can leave us afraid to trust again. You will trust again.
The swords in this card are stabbed in the back of our John Doe, inferring deception, sabotage, and shady business. If this card arrives in your relationship reading get ready for an unexpected bomb to drop. Perhaps the type of thing your mind (swords) will struggle to try to comprehend. ‘Why would you do this?’ ; ‘How could this happen to me?’
If this card comes up while you’re looking into the future potentials of a relationship, just know that it’s highly likely there will be real pain that comes from the connection. I recommend deep analysis of your situation if this card is showing up, as it often implies karmic and childhood injuries surfacing to be waded through.
Not easy to work through, but honestly possible, and an opportunity to love yourself even more deeply through challenge and pain.
What Happens When You Draw These Cards?
While these six cards are serious harbingers of some rough relationship stuff, or potentially a sign that you’re not in the right relationship to begin with, it’s very important to remember that the interpretations also depend on the other cards drawn in the reading. We can’t overlook how they are interacting with each other, and the context of the question at hand.
If these cards come up for you, it doesn’t mean to immediately leave your relationship. Rather, it’s time to take a closer look. You might want to get some advice and take your time looking at the situation in front of you. Do some detective work reflecting on the past, analyzing your current relationship and the relationships before this one. What themes are you seeing? What does your intuition tell you? Are there conversations that you’ve been avoiding? These cards are asking you to stand up for yourself and honor your soul.
Toxic relationship cards are great pointers that are trying to get you in touch with your instincts. You know what’s best for you deep down, and the cards are reminding you to listen to your truth, to stand up for yourself, to not give up on what’s beautiful and real in you.
I believe in you. Your angels and guides are speaking through the cards. They want you to find real love, to evolve into the empowered self that truly lives within you and will be reflected to you in others. Keep your head up and your heart open, and listen to the soft voice within that is calling you home.
At your service,
P.S. Have any of these 6 cards come up for you in a reading lately? What was the reading about? I’d love to hear all about it in the comments below!.
As a doctoral student in Somatic Studies, Jonathan Lionheart has always has a fascination with things that are beyond this world. This led Jonathan to the Tarot, which he quickly absorbed as his go-to method for getting direct insights from the Universe.