“Even when unresolved past traumas and issues arise, I do my best to hold them in love and look forward.”
You have divine permission.
You are allowed my love.
Even when (especially when) the energy can go in all kinds of directions, and you must choose.
(*words in my head allll week, so I felt maybe you could use them too, love you!)
Before a new chapter can fully begin, the old one must be finished.
Think back to what was going on for you 6 months ago, back in late October of last year?
(By the way, this was when Sun and Uranus were OPPOSING each other in the sky, over the Scorpio new moon).
Now this is where astrology can be so interesting as if there is a magical orchestrated sense to it all because this week over the Scorpio FULL Moon, the Sun is now CONJOINED Uranus making the last 6 months in some way, come to resolution.
Much less all this Pluto action we are all feeling amongst the transits lately (and Pluto retrograding today) showing us to uncover what has been keeping us STUCK…
Yes the energy right now is pushing through to the surface whatever has been holding us down in old patterns.
Even when the intensity and the unexpected shows up…
> What it really means to love yourself < and end the old trauma pattern.
Allowing YOU to love yourself in the way you always needed.
Not punish yourself.
Allowing YOU to forgive yourself for whatever that is.
Forgive yourself for leaving you.
And learning to return to love inside you.
“Even when unresolved past traumas and issues arise, I do my best to hold them in love and look forward.”
To open your physical body and being, to trust and guide your life from here (*only if you are in a physically safe environment of course).
To do the work of being a creator and showing up for yourself (and knowing whatever you go through IS YOU CREATING IT AND IS YOU BRINGING YOU HOME TO YOURSELF)
To do the work of Loving yourself-in-action…
= in BEING.
To trust your own body and to give yourself what you need to flourish!
To make the difficult decisions to stop “charging” and entertaining what really isn’t really YOU; what does not turn your soul on.
Recognizing what is really your HEART speaking over what the TRAUMA is saying.
And to forgive yourself for abandoning you—for not knowing how to trust yourself…
For believing someone else’s truth when you knew better…
And Yess, of course…
Forgiving life, in the ways that caused you to hurt.
And learning to allow what must DIE, to rest in the earth, to fertilize the new…
This means knowing how to close out cycles in your life ready to be closed out.
Knowing when a way or a situation or stage has come to an end.
Closing cycles, shutting doors, ending chapters – whatever name we give it, what matters is to leave in the past the moments of life that have finished.
Did something happen or end not as you expected?
Did you lose a loved one or a loving relationship come to an end?
Did you lose a job or have to move?
Did you travel to a new place?
Has a lasting situation or friendship suddenly ended?
You can spend a long time wondering why this has happened.
You can stay frozen and not take another step forward until you figure out why what was once so stable has now turned to dust.
You can keep watching that same sad movie over and over that makes you cry (ya know, the one that shows how much you suffered from a certain loss yet that is only poisoning you, and nothing else.)
Or you can stop turning on your emotional television to watch the same program over and over again and GET OUT of the swamp.
You can cling to the worst of times with your whole identity because you don’t know what it’s like to “not fight” …
Or you can try a new way…
Choose to love yourself.
You can forgive…
And Life moves forward.
If you are feeling called to this message know you may have a deep choice point moving forward.
Are you going to be driven by love or driven by loss?
It’s time to either resurrect it and burn its embers hot into flames. Or release it.
Everyone is finishing chapters these days…turning over new leaves, getting on with life, and it’s a pivotal choice to stay standing still.
Yes love, you can let go and forgive.
No matter where you are, you can CREATE something new and WAY MORE FULFILLING to your physical life and your soul…
Like I’ve written in the past, RADICAL Forgiveness is not JUST about learning to let go and creating something new outside of the old pattern.
It’s about choosing what you LOVE MORE and making room for the miracle…
Even realizing the things you go through that you didn’t quite expect may eventually bring you deep and profound life changes that you didn’t always know you needed but those changes you are very grateful for in the end.
It’s about self permission and provisioning self love over victim, shame and entitlement.
So be open to it.
Seeing the perfection from a higher heart place…
Yes, this isn’t the old model of forgiveness. Traditional forgiveness is based on old programming that puts you in a state of co-dependency.
And if you always believe that “life happening to you” and that you are always the victim in every situation, and that other people are responsible for your discomfort, then anger will almost always be the default response.
Many don’t even know that they still cling to “victim” from a place of NOT being ‘trauma informed’ and instead completely colored by trauma usually feeling justified in feeling this way (self-righteous).
If, on the other hand, you are grounded in your body and coming from the root of your own wholeness (singularity)…then you are more aware that you are always accountable for what happens in your life and in spite of how things appear, nothing wrong or right is happening.
And from this place your emotional response will be very different, of course after a little reflection and calming down!
There’s nothing to blame or suffer or escape or bypass away from.
There’s “no punishment to have.”
Only unlocking what you REALLY need and showing up all the way for it.
Only collapsing the old by directly facing it in your present nervous system and BODY so you can receive the embodied “ah hah” and GIFT from the situation, just as it is.
This is where YOU step into being a CREATOR…
This is where I am learning right now that no matter what life throws at me I am recognizing it as a divinely aligned opportunity for me to love and accept myself, deeper.
We all share a story of unworthiness deep down.
We’ve all been conditioned to attach our sense of self to our work, or our knowledge, or our bodies, appearance, achievements, other people, roles, material things, etc…
Yet uprooting these beliefs and coming home to the truth of who we really are and how inherently lovable, beautiful, worthy, sacred, and precious we are—naked and stripped just as we are— IS the REAL work.
This is how we liberate ourselves and each other from so much needless suffering and how we know real love and truth in our life.
So it’s time.
Facing and embracing all of the painful feelings and being courageous enough to walk through this fires of our own self permission.
It’s time to keep letting go of this mask of unworthiness.
This mask of choosing fear and thinking it’s more tangible and real, than in-the-body love.
To let go of what no longer supports your growth and path to love from here.
Here’s a simple exercise for you to try where you can collapse old timelines from a body-level awareness …
This is where you …
1. Tell the story until it’s ALL out
2. Feel the feelings somatically ALL the way
3. Collapse the story (reclaim forgotten power)
4. Reframe the story (acknowledging higher gift)
5. Integrating the new “healthy story…”
Now let’s break this down into short paragraphs and talk about each one…
Stage 1: Telling the Story
This is where you tell the story of what happened, why you it hurt, who hurt you, why you feel victimized, who is to blame, and so on.
The aim is allowing your story to be witnessed and validated from within you. You can also share with a loved one who honors you.
Stage 2: Feeling the Feelings
This is where you give yourself permission to feel the full range of feelings associated with the story, no matter what they are.
There’s so many (somatic) practices out there to help you feel fully in your nervous system and body.
Yet even allowing sensations in your body on a daily “check in” to flow, is intelligent and healthy when it comes to self-regulation and inner standing.
Stage 3: Collapsing the Story
In this part, you take a step backwards and try to understand the person’s motives for doing what they did, bring some empathy, mercy, and compassion into the mix, and try to cut them some slack in spite of what they did to you.
You also try to cut out all the stuff that isn’t quite true but you added to the story to make it seem more than it was, and so on. But this is as far as conventional forgiveness can go.
It still identifies you as a victim and even though you are making an effort to forgive the person, he or she is not let off the hook. He/she is still seen as the perpetrator and responsible for your unhappiness.
Stage 4: Reframing the Story
It’s at this point that Radical Forgiveness takes us where convention forgiveness can never go and where few of us have ever been before. But it is the key to a whole new way of thinking…
It’s where YOU begin to see that at the spiritual level there is nothing to forgive because everything that occurs happens not TO us but FOR us.
Stage 5: Integrating the New Story
The old victim story lived in every cell of our body. Having dissolved that story, the new (reframed) story has to be put in its place. For that to happen we need to do something physical for the integration to take place. It can be done through writing, speaking it out, dancing, music, and best of all, breathwork…
The new paradigm of Radical Forgiveness and process outlined above offers you the opportunity and space to not just be the “effect” in a cause-and-effect world, but the CAUSE …
You Truly Are A Creator.
And I see you!
Do you see you?
What do you see when you look at you?
Can you celebrate you?
Even in the setback-detouring and difficult times?
Do you see the ever-changing you?
Can you feel the deeper you?
Today I am simply inviting you to be conscious of your “I am” presence.
In other words, watch what you are defining yourself as and molding yourself into with your “I am” statements and thoughts.
I invite you to repeat after me:
“I am love”
“I am connection”
“I am whole”
“I am sovereignty”
“I am pure God living divine light”
“Even when unresolved past traumas and issues arise, I do my best to hold them in love and look forward”
And so it is.
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