Hey it’s Angel, how are you?
More specifically… How are you feeling about the people in your life?
Relationships have been on a rocky road since last week when Venus – the planet of love, money and relationships – started her retrograde journey through the sign of Gemini.
Venus Retrograde is a six week period that happens once every year and a half. Similar to the more familiar and more frequent Mercury Retrograde, Venus Retrograde is a time of uncovering problems, retracing your steps, revisiting old connections and opportunities, and potentially taking a new and different path that brings you into greater alignment with your capacity for pleasure and success..
Instead of dealing with the communication issues associated with Mercury – this time, our relationships, our finances, and our overall level of fulfillment will be undergoing a cosmic audit.
A Cycle Of Rethinking Our Relationship Patterns
We all have psychic tendrils or “feelers” that reach out and touch other people. We use these tendrils to connect emotionally with others. Whenever people connect to one another, their tendrils intertwine and their energy is exchanged.
This is a normal aspect of Venus, and part of how we enact the energies of Venus in our lives.
However, when Venus goes Retrograde…
Our tendrils recede. We detach from others and our focus goes inward. We begin to examine our personal values, and if they are aligned with what we need to feel happy and fulfilled, both financially and in our intimate connections with friends and lovers.
Often the relationship we find ourselves in now may need some serious tlc, or it might need to move in another direction entirely in order to align with our inner needs and values. .
Venus in Gemini: The Unsteady Lover
Gemini is the sign of communication, and while in Gemini, Venus likes to communicate… A LOT! Love notes, soft whispers in your partner’s ear, and new and exciting ways to communicate affection is how Venus in Gemini expresses itself. The need for intellectual stimulation is heightened. Whether in business or pleasure, there is a strong impulse to use all channels of communication – mental, verbal and digital, to explore new ideas. When Venus is in Gemini, money talks. You may think of a new way to generate income during this time that uses your voice, networking abilities, and your mind.
Venus is a mutable sign, and like all mutable signs, it has two distinct sides. In Gemini, these two sides manifest as Love and Hate. Many people who have Venus in Gemini in their natal chart have a tendency for love/hate relationships. Gemini rarely pays attention to one thing for very long. It is like a butterfly, flitting in a garden from one attractive flower to the next. Gemini’s affections are hard to stabilize, as they are drawn to what is new, exciting and novel. When denied their freedom or if they’re feeling bored, Gemini’s love can quickly turn to hate. During this season, it’s easier for all of us to flip between the two extremes.
This year, Venus entered Gemini on April 4th. Do you remember the changes that happened in your relationships around that time? What situations and circumstances came up around partnerships, friendships, your appearance, romance or finances?
These areas will be highlighted now, and will likely be the theme of your Venus Retrograde.
The 4 Step Waltz of Venus Retrograde in Gemini
As Venus prepares for her celestial dance through Gemini, things can take an unexpected turn. People begin to show sides of themselves that you’d rather not see. In mythology, the “dark twin” of Gemini represents the underdeveloped, childish, misunderstood parts of ourselves. During this transit, we will have an opportunity to see and heal these aspects of ourselves, or witness them more clearly in others, which will help us to make a better choice moving forward.
There are four key dates that correspond to this Venus retrograde cycle. By connecting the events, people and situations in your life with these dates, you can begin to uncover how this retrograde cycle is manifesting in your life.
April 10th: Venus enters her Shadow period
While retrograding, a planet appears to move backwards through the zodiac from the Earth’s perspective. But first, it must truck past the degrees through which it will soon return. This “pre-retrograde” path is called the “shadow period” because it foreshadows what is to come.
Venus entered her shadow period April 10th, marking the beginning of issues that will be revisited over the next six weeks.
The direction of your finances, appearance, relationships and personal values was heading down a certain path, until just last week (which we’ll get to in step 2).
For example, this year’s Venus Retrograde corresponds with the COVID-19 “stay at home” lockdown. Millions of people experienced this shadow period in quarantine with their families. Some people started new relationships and hunkered down. Other’s stayed home alone, feeling more single than ever before. Some of us put on COVID weight and dawned sweatpants for days on end. We were all told this would end soon, but it didn’t. This went on for several weeks, and we all saw “the middle of May” as the light at the end of the tunnel.
But we were wrong.
May 13th: Venus goes Retrograde
Just last week, on Wednesday May 13th, Venus began her backwards descent into Gemini.
It just so happens, that around the same time, here in the United States, we were told that the delay in “reopening the country” is now longer than we expected. States like California went as far as extending their lockdown to July (remember that date for later in this forecast). We were told as a collective that we must continue to stay at home. Meanwhile, some states begin opening up – entering a new and unfamiliar territory that could work out really well, or really bad for us all.
On a personal level, we found ourselves facing delays in our relationships, partnerships and finances – forcing us to reexamine our situation before truly moving forward. We may have also found a real contrast to our hurried, daily lives, and under the slower pace of lockdown, started to question our values and lifestyles. The influence of Venus Retrograde might have you exploring how to make lasting changes to your life to make it more pleasurable and fulfilling – like more time with your family, having your own garden, or finding more meaningful work that allows you to experience more enjoyment.
Did anything happen on Friday that created a shift in your trajectory? Did you get into a fight with someone that doesn’t seem possible to resolve? Did you receive news that changed your financial situation? Has an old financial opportunity or lover reappearend in your life? Are you reevaluating your appearance and committing to taking better care of yourself?
Think back to what you were dealing with last week. This issue is the core of your Venus Retrograde, and should be handled with logic and innovation over the next six weeks.
As this time period passes, you’ll get closer and closer to the core of any issues in your relationships, money, or experiences of pleasure. More and more truth will be revealed, so be prepared to face anything you’ve been avoiding. Hold strong because things that don’t make sense now, will reveal themselves in new ways later.
Above all, do NOT make any major financial or romantic decisions during this time. Otherwise, it’s inevitable that you’ll revisit them. Since Venus also rules beauty, drastic changes to your appearance or style will likely not turn out well during this transit. Avoid getting plastic surgery, buying non-returnable clothing online, or trying a daring new haircut, because you will probably not be happy with the results. Since most of us are under “stay at home” orders, this also means not trying to cut your own hair or handing the scissors to a family member.
June 25th: Venus Goes Direct
On Thursday, June 25th, Venus will reach the end of her retrograde and start moving forward again.
By this time, the underlying issue of your Venus Retrograde will be understood, and a new path forward will make itself known. Relationships that are meant to be together, stay together. One’s that are not, find a way to end. You will be able to discover an exciting new approach to expressing your natural beauty, finding luxury and enjoyment in your life, and sustainably handling your finances through a new innovation or form of communication.
It’s during this transit that new information comes to light and changes our perspective on things.
This time brings is an extreme concentration of Venus in Gemini energy, which can be very cutting, detached and non-emotional. You will find yourself making a major decision during this time, so try not to jump to conclusions or make irreversible decisions about these issues until then.
Once Venus begins her forward motion at the end of June, we will have a new roadmap on how to move forward. However, the map is not the terrain, and we won’t be out of the retrograde woods just yet.
July 28th: Venus Leaves Her Shadow
It will take another month for Venus to crawl out of the degrees she just passed through during her retrograde. This month will feel a lot like it did between April 10th and May 13th. Your goals and intentions may be the same. But this time, you are going about things differently.
The new information you receive when Venus goes direct will set you on course with the way things “should have gone” the first time. Events that take place will work out much better than before. The obstacles will be apparent, and the way forward will be clear. It will just be a matter of letting your new plan unfold.
Relationships that stay together during this time will inevitably change, as new boundaries will have been established. New relationships that form during a Venus Retrograde will be tested as Venus retraces her steps. If it isn’t meant to be, it will become clear during the month of July. If it is meant to be, you’ll step into August together with a brand new perspective on your relationship.
5 Important Things To Avoid During Venus Retrograde
Venus Retrograde tends to pull our heart strings into the past and bring our exes back into our lives. And now that we’ve been quarantined for almost two months, you can be sure that the isolation is getting to people – even your ex.
Don’t be surprised if you get a random text from an old flame looking to reconnect. Also, don’t be surprised if you get a sudden urge to contact an ex out of nowhere. It is very common during a Venus retrograde, so keep that in mind, and just don’t do it. Remember, they are your ex for a reason. This is not the time to pretend otherwise.
Major Financial Decisions
The delays you may experience in your finances are not by accident. Generally it means there’s more to it than you realize at the time, which this Venus Retrograde cycle will reveal. This is reflected in the way the US Government has handled the Coronavirus relief packages, which were rushed out the door with little forethought to how it will play out later. We are destined to see issues arise on a collective level in this way.
Being Too Sharp
If there’s any sign that Venus can be in, where she will tell you exactly how she feels about you, it’s Gemini. The Mercurial sign of the twins gives our tongues a razor’s edge with no remorse. It’s very easy to say overly hurtful things during this Venus Retrograde time period.
Remind yourself: You can tell people what you want without making them feel bad. You can express yourself without blows below the belt. It will simply take self awareness, time and patience. Make sure you can recognize this potential, so when the time comes so it doesn’t blind side you.
Settling For Less
When Venus retrogrades, we can feel isolated, unattractive and lonely – even in a crowded room. However, with the lockdown restricting our ability to socialize at ALL… feelings of isolation can quickly turn into fear and desperation.
Do yourself a favor and promise you will not settle for less during this retrograde, even if your heart strings are being pulled like a rodeo. Use this time to improve your appearance and create new outlets for pleasure and enjoyment. Any new relationships you may form now will absolutely be revisited, so don’t commit to something now that might turn out to be a really bad idea later.
There will be an inevitable “hashing out” of relationship terms with someone in your life. Whether it is a romantic relationship, business partnership, or otherwise. You may even find yourself engaged in a conflict with a total stranger who the Universe sent to you as a message during this time.
Just please, whatever you do – do not attempt a power move and pull an ultimatum on this person. It will not go over well. If you get wrapped up in a “he said / she said” battle with someone, it will go nowhere good. Venus in Gemini wants to sever bad connections, which is a great thing. Just don’t be the one forcing the sword.
A Time To Focus on YOU!
Over the next several weeks, as your psychic tendrils fully recede, and your connections with others come into focus, make sure you spend time taking care of yourself.. This will be a very talkative time period, so give yourself (and your nervous system) time to rest, even if that means finding peace in a quiet corner of the house.
Your relationships with people and your value system will go through this challenge, and you will emerge with a new perspective that will govern how you experience pleasure and connection over the next year and ½. So treat this time as a learning period, and remember not to take yourself (or other people) too seriously until the end of June.
Speaking of which, stay tuned for a follow up Horoscope as this cycle unfolds. Together, we will help you ride this cosmic wave to the destination you desire.
P.S. What changes in your relationships came up in April that have been revisited just last week? Let me know in the comments below <3